Self - Love

Love is this powerful thing that can lift you up and make you feel like the world is beautiful, or it can destroy you. But the kind of love that matters the most is is self-love. When love destroys you, no one is going to be able to pick you up and fix it, like you can. You cant date someone else to get over the kind of hurt and pain that you are going through. The only person on this earth that is going to love you unconditionally and completely is yourself. Every flaw, every pound, every bad habit, the only one that will love you no matter is going to be yourself. Being in love with yourself is the best thing you can do, you will learn so much more about who you are than you will about any partner you may have.  You have to love yourself before before you try love someone else, because you will depend on that person for happiness, for joy , for love. No one, should ever control you. Control your self-worth, your happiness,and your life. Its hard, i wont lie to you. But you have to do it. You have to love yourself, because when no one else does, you need to be able to care of yourself. So many people fall into this pit of self loathing because their partner left them, they cheated on them, they destroyed them. The problem isn't you, the problem is them. Because even though we cant fully define love, i know for one thing that is not love. That is most certainly not love. You can sit around and cry , and cry and that's fine. But eventually you need to pick yourself up and live. Because its your life, your are worth more than that. Whether you see it now, or you see later. Its true. You define your worth, no one else.

You can love someone so much, and give them everything you have and if they still walk out of your life, let them go. And shut that door behind them, because they might realize that whatever they are chasing after is not as good as the love you showed them. Its not that you aren't good enough, its that they are too blind to see that you are worth everything.  And you deserve everything you want. If you have a partner that you try and try and try to make happy and it seems like nothing is working. You change your habits to make that person happy, you become someone you don't recognize. And that all your work and effort and love is taken for granted, walk away. Do not change yourself to accompany someone else, because if they aren't going to do the same. Its not worth it. You cant change someone, you cant fix someone, if they don't want to change that's on them, you move on and be happy by yourself. I would rather be happy and alone than feel run down and worthless and with someone that doesn't love me.