So this maybe a little ranty.....
Sorry. Not sorry.
So I've come across this question several times in my life, and also recently. I've been asked why I prefer not to date black men.
The truth is I do and would date a black man, however there is a type that I can not bring myself to get involved with.
These " Black" men that I am not attracted to:
1. Sag their pants. I mean seriously pull you damn pants up! I don't get it. If you were in jail, you'd be asking for it.
2. Uses Ebonics. Seriously my biggest pet peeve. Speak English.You can speak Arabic, Spanish or Chinese I don't care. Something I can at least trey to learn and understand. I literally hate Ebonics, Its lazy speaking. Say the full word and what the hell is up with eliminating letters fro words.
"I goin to da sto."
wtf?
3. Talks about getting that cutty? First of all. I had to have some explain what that means. If you need to brag loudly about how you are gong to try to get laid all weekend. MAJOR TURN OFF!!!
4. You don't have your priorities in check. If your main priority is getting tattoos, buying those new jays and you cant even afford to pay your cell phone bill. Or you don't have a car and you still live with your parents. Why don't you save up, get your own place, buy a car and then maybe you can that cutty.
5. If you are loud and Obnoxious. I mean making a scene over nothing. Hootin and hollerin because you got it in this weekend. Or Claiming everything is because you are black. Believe me, being a a minority is hard. Discrimination is real. It happens, but if you exemplify every NEGATIVE stereotype of the African American race you are not helping yourself.
6. You act like a thug. End of story.
7. You do not have any productive and real goals. For instance, having a career, furthering your education, having a family. Not buying new shoes, or throwing stripper parties. But real life goals. Sure this can be short term goals. But that shouldnt be your only goal in life.
I was told that I am betraying my ancestors by preferring not to date black men who exemplify these characteristics . Which makes no sense. First off my Ancestors are from Africa, Germany, and Ireland. I am multi racial. I will embrace each of my ancestral lines. I will not conform to a cultural behavior that makes you look like an idiot. You do not have to be black to be an example of this. I don't care what race you are, i will not involve myself with you if you are like this.
